9 Steps to Sexting on Kik When You’re Horny

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I'm guessing you're horny, dear reader because you're reading this article.

One of the best ways to get some release is to message other horny people on Kik! But how do you find people who want to sext and how do you do it right?

Here are a few steps to Kik sexting:

RP? Sext? Exchange Nudes? What do you want?

So what are you looking for? One of the key things that you need to keep in mind when you're looking for someone to sext - or before you sext someone already in your contacts - is what you want out of it.

While you might not think wanting to sext or exchange nudes are particularly different things, they might be to some people.

You also might want to think about if you're looking to have a straight-up Kik sexting sesh or if you want to go the Role Play (or RP) route. This may change who you're going to want to message or who will be willing to play around with you in the first place.

Who are you going to Kik?

Okay, so now that you know what you want you to need to decide who to message. You should always check if any of your previous partners are online! Since you've already gotten down and dirty with these people already, there's a higher chance of them wanting to do stuff with. you again.

Let's say you don't have someone you want to message; maybe you need to look to the internet to find someone. If you want to exchange nudes find someone who's been known to exchange pics, if you're looking to RP make sure whoever you message types in complete sentences! Find someone who's looking for what you're looking for!

What are you into?

Speaking of what you're looking for, what are you looking for in terms of sexual interests?

This is an important conversation to have with any potential sexting partner… the last thing you want is to have nothing in common!

Be open about what you're looking to talk about or what you're looking to have happened. Encourage your partner to do the same. Having an open conversation will help your sexting session go smoothly and be much more satisfying.

After all, in any relationship, communication is key.

What are you NOT into?

Another important conversation that you need to have is what you're not into!

It's easy to make the assumption that just because you think something is hot, the other person is going to feel the same way. That's just how it goes. But that's not always the case.

Discuss what's off limits, maybe talking about certain sex acts or certain words make the other person uncomfortable. Even if you really like something your partner isn't into, don't push them into talking about it or doing it. And if you ask why they don't like it, and they don't want to answer, don't push them either.

What are the boundaries?

When you and your partner discuss what you're into and what you're not into, you'll probably start to get a feel for the other's boundaries.

But it's always good to bring up boundaries explicitly! This might extend from what you're comfortable talking/sexting about to what you're sending (like photos or videos).

If this is someone you plan on talking to in the future think about what kind of long term boundaries you should set. Can they Kik you at work? Can they send pics whenever they want? Or should you only talk at specific times? These are just a few questions to get you started!

Should I include face pics?

When you're sexting, you might send pics! And in those pics, you might be showing off your junk! But should you show off your junk and your face in the same photo?

Should you send photos of your face at all?

A lot of people want to see who they're sexting and some people don't want to ruin the fantasy.

Another huge reason people don't want to send face pictures is because of privacy reasons. But maybe once you build trust, you can send face pics!

Decide what you want to do with your face, but keep in mind that face pics can be incriminating if you're cheating or have a high profile job!

What should I say?

A lot of people fumble when it comes to the wordy part of sexting. And my best advice to those who don't know what to say is to speak their mind.

If you still don't know what to say, read a little bit of online erotica to figure out what kinds of words you should use.

My biggest piece of advice when sexting is not to be lazy. Don't be afraid to send long messages!

What should we do after?

You've reached and surpassed the climax, now what do you do? Well, firstly you should have the sexting equivalent of pillow talk.

You don't want to do the online version of a pump and dump if you want to talk to this person again!

You should also take some time to talk about what worked and what didn't work. Discuss what parts of the sexting sesh were the hottest for you, ask what you can do next time to make it better, talk about fantasies you want to explore the next time you chat!

Or, if the sexting sesh wasn't up to par… block them!

What happens if I get fucked over?

Anytime you're sexting with strangers online; you have to keep in mind that you could get fucked over. People with less than savory intentions might use your nudes against you (which is revenge porn and is illegal in some states)!

There is always a risk involved with any reward, just make sure you're okay with that risk before you dive in headfirst into Kik sexting strangers.

If you do find yourself in a shitty situation just remember that you can always block someone on Kik. Kik makes it super easy for users to change their name and block people as a way to start fresh!